There's no wiggle room here

Dating a girl who wants to be friends

Either way, you will walk away a winner. What we do know is that he is really, really good at dating.

Writing this letter, you were probably hoping for a magic word or two you could utter, or some secret formula to make any woman attracted to you. Got a text message randomly to meet up on Saturday night.

Recently, I finally told her that I wanted to take our relationship to the next level. She told me she wanted to just stay friends. You do not date this girl, because she doesn't want to date you.

Let's just call her Brenda. In this alternate reality, she might still see you as a permanent friend with benefits, but the topic would at least be up for discussion.

To me it seems

To me it seems she hasn't closed the door yet but I'm not sure what to do. No matter how prevalent it is as a form of communication, text occupies a lower tier.

No matter how prevalent

If you have any chance of her seeing you romantically, she has to have a chance to miss what you provided her emotionally, and you can only do this if you do not offer her friendship. And these things are hard to learn. That was the last time we ever spoke, but he left an impression on me. Keen to chat about it when we're both sober. You lose respect for a man who will sit around and just be your friend when he really wants more.

We might live in a better world if they were, but that's just speculation. Again, I don't tell you this to hurt you.